Report Misuse and Avoiding Scammers

Report Misuse and Avoiding Scammers

Sadly, people aren't always what they seem. Matchmaking sites, social networks and other internet services are targeted by scammers. Scammers want one thing and one thing only – money. Here are a few examples of common scammer behaviours to watch out for and report:

1. Declarations of love - If someone you are in contact with starts declaring their love for you within a matter of weeks (or even days or hours), be cautious. You need to know someone to come to love them. Instant messages of love could be someone trying to get right into your life, possibly for all the wrong reasons. Use common sense and don’t be afraid to speak to a friend to get a second opinion.

2. Requests for money - This really should send alarm bells ringing whatever the form the request comes in. Scammers will look to gain your sympathy with the stories they tell.

3. Someone offering you money - Who gives money away to strangers through a matchmaking site? These are always scams. The same goes for anyone with a sure-fire get rich quick schemes. The only one trying to get rich quick is the scammer as he or she fishes for your bank details or other financial information.

4. Threats and blackmail - These are ugly words. But some scammers have tried to threaten money out of people for not showing pictures, webcam footage or messages that they have managed to get out of users online.

Sadly, people aren't always what they seem. Matchmaking sites, social networks and other internet services are targeted by scammers. Scammers want one thing and one thing only – money. Here are a few examples of common scammer behaviours to watch out for and report:

Advice for avoiding scammers


- Never ever respond to a request for money.

- Never give out bank account or other details.

- Beware of the sob story - someone telling you how much they want to visit you but need a loan to pay for the ticket/visas. Or stories about a desperately ill family member who needs help with medical expenses.

- The same goes for fantastic too good to be true business deal they are in on – if only they had some extra up-front money…..

- Watch out for those profiles that immediately tug on heart strings – supposed ex-serviceman or woman, or those who claim to be recently widowed to gain your trust and sympathy.

- Don’t let the passing of time cloud your judgment. These sorts of pitches may take time to come out in messages, time in which you may very well have come to trust and value a relationship with your online contact. That does not make them any less of a lie.

- Our same warning goes for please of urgency – about money needed at short notice. Someone asking you to use a wire service to get money to them is up to no good.

- Be wary of long distance and overseas relationships: They can happen but it is an unlikely way for a relationship to start offline so be wary online. - Notice if a contact seems out of touch or out of kilter: people offering foreign numbers for contact, people who seem not to be aware of things happening in the UK – events, the weather etc, people who want or need to send messages at unusual hours.

- Be wary if someone seems vague in their communication about their interests, or may often repeat things or seem disconnected. They may dodge questions or make excuses for not meeting or speaking on the telephone. Their profile or communications may also have odd spelling and grammar.

- Do not share pictures or information about yourself or others that gives someone any sort of hold over you. Your private life should stay private until you know someone really well and can start over time to trust them with things.

- If you do find someone trying to menace money out of you – don’t. They’d just be back for more. Report them; however bad that might feel at the time. The Police have national and local teams there to attack fraudsters. Let them protect you – and others.

- Don’t be afraid to ask a friend – if you start to commit to a relationship online or in person it can be hard to stay objective. If a contact starts to feel strange and especially if money gets raised you might ask a friend or relative if you are not at a point where you think there is something to report to the matchmaking service. If they advise you to back off ... listen to them.

Reporting a concern or problem


Don’t assume scammers are illiterate people you and others will see through in an instant. Scamming is a pretty sick line of business but it is a business for them.

They practice tugging at heartstrings, at showing tenderness or a neediness. They tell people what they want to hear.

IF YOU SUSPECT THAT SOMEONE YOU'RE TALKING TO MAY BE A SCAMMER, STOP YOUR COMMUNICATIONS AND IMMEDIATELY REPORT HIM OR HER CUSTOMER SUPPORT TEAM MARRIAGE.LK

YOU SHOULD NEVER FEEL TOO STUPID OR ASHAMED TO REPORT SOMEONE. YOU ARE NOT THE PERSON WHO SHOULD BE ASHAMED AND STOPPED.

Marriage.lk customer support team act to get people off sites immediately to help safeguard you and others. Online matchmaking providers need to know if someone is trying to get hold of your personal information, asking for money or behaving in really inappropriate ways. Marriage.lk customer support team monitor regulatory but need to be told if you can see a profile that has obscene, pornographic, abusive, violent or otherwise offensive photos or content. They will act to remove the content and the user.

Any act of violence or abuse should be reported to your local police.